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Great expectations (not a novel by Dickens) and great disappointments

In life, dont expect anything from anyone.
Because expectation, when not fulfilled, gives you pain.
When you get something without expecting it,
It gives you pleasure.
Keep doing your part
And leave the rest to Life.

“Don’t expect anything from anybody and you won’t get disappointed”. That’s hard to say but I truly believe it’s the ugly truth. And that’s not that bad. When you project your ways of thinking and reacting on others as if that were the expecting way of thinking and reacting you are bound to be disappointed, don’t you think? When you wish more than you asses the situation, you’re bound to be disappointed and when we are not flexible about the others and our own expectations we are bound to be disappointed too.

Assess and bend

I think that it’s important to have ambition and expectations but it’s important to asses if what we want is achievable as well. Think about the lottery, if we considered the odds of winning, we probably wouldn’t play. However, people continue to play, wishing they would win and feeling the little disappointment when the numbers appear and they don’t match our ticket. We need to be flexible about our expectations too. I might want to own a house or the fastest car in the world or just a partner drooling for me but the thing is that for one reason or other you might not get that. You try as hard as you can to get all the money you need but sometimes won’t be enough or your might take as much chances as you can to find that person but sometimes that won’t happen. Be flexible and so be prepared to change and move on.

There is always something to learn

Of course, you won’t be able to scape completely from disappointment, and when that happens, learn from it. Ask yourself why you became upset. Did you expect someone to do something and the person didn’t? Did you expect too much from yourself? Were you let down because you were being a perfectionist? Learning what caused your disappointment can help you adjust your expectations for similar situations in the future.

Inspire yourself

My final advice is: Find inspiration in disappointment. I read somewhere that a lot of world leaders and successful people were inspired to do great things because of a previous disappointment or hard time. Think about it. If you can benefit from a setback of life (and I’m sure everybody can), just go for it, metamorphose the negative energy of disappointment into a positive gift.

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