This is the first post that comes accompanied by a video and it’s not by chance.
Since I was a little girl I heard people referring to me as a coward. The same people that were surprised afterwards at me being able to go out and do things that were difficult for someone “like me”. I used to get very pissed off. “I’m not a coward!!!” – I complained, “I’m just very shy…”.
For me, the difference between both terms is obvious, but it was such a common mistake that I decided to look up those words in the dictionary, and what I found let me quite astonished:
Shy: ‘easily frightened, timid’
‘disposed to avoid a person or a thing’
Coward: ‘one who shows disgraceful fear or timidity’
(Merriam – Webster dictionary)
So, I finally should agree with these people in that I am coward, right? Well, I don’t think so and I explain you why (even if I’m not backed by the dictionary!)
Shyness, a part from the dictionary, is considered as a social phobia, a feeling of apprehension, lack of comfort, or awkwardesnes experienced when a person is approaching, or being approached by other people, especially in new situations or with unfamiliar people.
Whereas cowardice is lack of courage in face of a challenge.
I shy person can be coward or courageous as much as an open one can be. But it turns out that in a lot of cases, the shy people recognize their problem, mainly because we live in society and not being sociable is quite manifest for the others, so they try to overcome it. Being a coward is not so clear to the sight, so the need to overcome it is not so vital.
It’s not the fist time that I know about a famous actors who started acting in order to overcome the fear to speaking in public. Isn’t it a courageous move?
And here comes the reason why I added a video of myself to this post. I am very shy, so recording a video of myself and posting it in the internet definitely puts me way out of my comfort zone. I am shy, but being shy makes me a coward as well? I don’t think so and here is only one proof of that misjudgment.
P.S. I think I have to apologize about what it was a pretty bad video: I made several mistakes, I got stuck with the idea I wanted to transmit and I got nervous in the last part of the video, so the end was quite chaotic but I didn’t want to record it again out of naturalness over a rehearsed perfection…